Rotten apples in the family tree
The news that a child in the family has autism is often met with a number of reactions. While all family members, even if extended, would be s
upportive in an ideal world, the sad truth is that many are disgusted or frustrated. Does a family member scold the autistic child often? Does he or she view
your child with autism unfairly? Does this family member insist that your autistic child be treated the same way they treat all the other children in your family,
even when it is inappropriate? These are signs that this relative is not accepting of your autistic child or the situation. This can often be the case when a child is
discovered to be autistic, so as a parent, be aware and prepared for this to happen.
Often, non-responsive relatives simply do not understand what autism is or what it means for your child and immediate family. Although many see autism as a
mental retardation, many autistic children and adults are very intelligent. They just aren't able to communicate this in the same ways that other people might.
Try to explain to this family member what autism means, and get him or her to spend time with you and your autistic child. Allow them to see the effects of
autism and the ways you can use them to cope.
If a family member continues to be unsupportive or rejects your explanation, ask why that person is not accepting of the situation. Are they afraid of harming
the child? Are they concerned about the added responsibility when spending time with the child? They may feel guilty or embarrassed. If you can identify
why a family member is not accepting, you can better address the issue and hopefully help them overcome their original perceptions.
Perhaps no amount of talking or spending time together will help this family member overcome their prejudice. If this person stubbornly makes up their
minds, you will never be able to show them how beautiful your son or daughter is with autism and all. If so, eliminating this person from your life may be
difficult, but it will also rid you and your child of the negative energy and negative personality of this family member. In this evolving situation, you need
the best positive support available. Remember that other family members have been supportive; That your children are coping well and that they are an asset
to you. Strengthen your support network by participating in parent support groups for children with autism. And remember that you can surround yourself with those who accept and love your child's family or not.
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